The other day I had a fellow Mom tell me she struggles sometime with the craziness of mom world and that she thought I was always so put together and that I seemed like I had this whole Mom thing down.
As she was talking I would like to give you a rundown of my thoughts:
“Is she serious? She knows who she is talking to right? As of this moment I am trying to remember if I brushed my teeth this morning or if I left the straightener on and my house is burning down as we speak. My kids are currently wearing hats, not because it is a cute thing to put on them, but because I couldn’t get them to let me brush their hair. Speaking of hair, this morning I threw baby powder in my hair because I haven’t showered in three days and I needed to hide the grease. And to top it all off, my children, as per usual, are wearing mismatched socks.
Shoot, I can’t even match my own socks who are we kidding?
I mean I lock my kids in my room while I get ready because I am afraid of them falling down the stairs. But the result of this brilliant idea is having them throw my makeup in the toilet, chuck all of my cupboard items out of the drawers, and pretty much destroy my room. And then, because I am so exasperated, I just take the kids and leave without cleaning up the mess they made.
Does she know I am wearing toilet mascara?
Also, yesterday at the gym I had to go get an employee to break out the lock cutters because I absent mindedly threw my keys in my locker and then proceeded to lock said locker.
I have it all together? What?”
You know what the funny thing is my friends? I always thought she had it all together.
After I got through the torrential downpour of thoughts about how she was so wrong, I thought about how even through all the craziness, I really do enjoy being a mom. I really do love my kids. I mean I keep them alive and loved right? Apparently love really does cover a multitude of sins.
So in the end, instead of being so hard on myself, I decided to be gracious, say thank you, and compliment her on all the positive things I think about her. Because through all the craziness, I know she really loves her kids and being a Mom too. She is a good mom. And you know what, I am a good Mom too.
Maybe that is just what we all need.
To accept and receive the compliments given to us… To tell others that they are doing a great job… To give ourselves a little grace…. And to just laugh at the craziness of life.
From now on if I think something nice about someone, I am going to tell them. Because maybe they will be as shocked as I was, and maybe it will brighten their day. So no I don’t really think I have it all together, but thank you fellow Mom for making me feel like I am doing something right. I will make sure to pay that compliment forward.